Why your best plans fall apart by Wednesday, and what to do about it I’m writing this from a hotel room in Santa Marta, Colombia after 4 spectacular days of Carnival in Barranquilla last weekend. And somewhere between the last night of carnival and checking into this hotel, I made the most spectacular plans for this week: Write from my stunning hotel room, inspired by the view of the Caribbean sea. Gym every morning. Eat well. Catch-up on work calls and emails. Research for my upcoming...
9 days ago • 1 min read
Be The Person You’d Fall In Love With I spent most of my 30s in a relationship with someone who was wildly unreliable. No, I’m not talking about my husband. He’s absolutely wonderful. I’m talking about someone who would make promises every Sunday night like “this is the week I’m going to eat better, sleep more, stop smoking, stop drinking, exercise, meditate, journal, be a better human....” And usually by Wednesday she’d broken half of them. By Friday she’d totally given up. By Sunday she was...
16 days ago • 2 min read
Your Life Isn’t a TED Talk We’ve been sold a story. The visionary founder who “always knew” he’d build something huge. The coach who found her ‘true calling’ after one life-changing retreat. The career changer who had one crystallising moment of clarity. Great stories, mostly bullshit. These people aren’t dishonest. They’re just doing what humans do: making sense of a messy journey by telling it backwards. Steve Jobs said “you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them...
23 days ago • 1 min read
Still thinking about it? That's the problem. Two years of promising myself I’d have a dry month, then quietly giving up by day four.. Two years of waking up feeling like shit and swearing this time, for real, it was the last time. But then doing it again the following weekend. I genuinely wanted to change. But wanting to change and being ready to change are not the same thing. And nobody ever told me that. Then when I was training to be a health coach, I came across a framework that genuinely...
28 days ago • 1 min read
You’re Not Bad at Goals. Your Goals Are Bad. You know that moment in mid-January when you quietly stop mentioning the goal? You don’t announce you’ve given up. You just… stop talking about it. Hope no one notices. Move on. Maybe it was the gym membership you’ve used twice. Maybe the meditation app you stopped opening. Maybe the meal prep containers still in their box. Maybe the fancy 2026 journal with 3 entries in it. And somewhere in the back of your head, your nasty little inner narrator:...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
The Most Underrated Skill for 2026: Making Space It’s only the third week of January and already, there is just... so much?! So much content. So much news. So many opinions, crises, takes, updates, emails, alerts. Every time you open your phone, the world is on fire in 20 different ways. And somehow you’re expected to keep up, stay informed, have a take, be present, reply to everything, and also... be well? Cool. Sure. No problem. At this stage, it’s not just information overload anymore....
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Consistency Isn’t a Personality Trait. It’s a Design Problem. I’m writing this from Brazil, a month into our year-long Latin America adventure. And I’ll be honest: my habits are a fucking mess right now. In Singapore, I had my routine on point. Perfected over years. Wake up at 6. Coffee. Deep work on my outdoor terrace with the sound of the birds (which was often when I wrote because it was sooo quiet). Gym at 10am. Shower, brunch, back online feeling like I’d already won the day. Evening...
about 2 months ago • 4 min read
Happy New Year! I’m writing this from Florianópolis, Brazil! I’m about 3 weeks into our year-long adventure through Latin America with my husband. We left Singapore (home for 18 years), bounced through Miami, Buenos Aires, and Uruguay, and are now settling into a month of beach, Brazilian BBQ, samba, and figuring out what “slow travel” actually means. So the past few weeks, I’ve been practising what I preach: doing less. Self-hibernating. Giving myself space while everything changes. It’s...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Cocooning Season Is Here Note: this is my last newsletter & podcast of the year! I'm flying to Miami tomorrow and the next 3 weeks are going to be wild with traveling. I'll still hang out daily on Substack if you want a daily dose of BS-free wellbeing tips. Wishing you & your loved ones a very Happy Christmas! x A friend told me something last week that's been rattling around in my head. She was sharing that when she lived in the UK, January was absolutely dreadful. The weather, the darkness,...
3 months ago • 3 min read