Is it just me, or everything feels a little fucked? Is it just me or is everyone a little bit over... everything right now? It’s like a constant dread in the background. A constant what the fuck is happening that doesn’t switch off. You open your phone and there’s multiple wars, climate crisis, something unhinged someone said, and a grocery receipt that makes you want to lie down on the floor. And then, at the same time, everything is also incredibly stupid. Oracle just laid off 30,000 people...
12 days ago • 1 min read
SMART Goals Have Zero Evidence Behind Them. Zero. The world’s most popular goal framework has zero evidence behind it. I know. That’s a big claim. But stay with me. SMART goals are everywhere. Every corporate training deck you’ve ever sat through. Every January reset article. Every wellness carousel with cute fonts and a sunset background. They feel so official, so universally agreed upon, that I assumed there must be decades of research behind them. Right? There are not. The whole thing...
20 days ago • 1 min read
That Voice in Your Head? It's Full of Shit There’s a version of this you’ll recognise. You’re having a perfectly fine day. Nothing is particularly wrong, nothing’s on fire. But out of absolutely nowhere, your brain produces something like: you’re falling behind. Or this isn’t going to work anyway so what’s the point. Or everyone else has figured this out and you’re the one who hasn’t. It arrives with zero evidence yet total certainty. It doesn’t knock or present a case. It just shows up in...
27 days ago • 1 min read
8 Books That Actually Changed My Life I got conned by a bestselling author and I didn’t even see it coming. She was on one of the biggest podcasts in the world (you know the one, tens of millions of downloads every month), super confident and articulate and full of bold claims about nutrition and what was slowly killing us all. I bought her book before the episode was over. Within the first few chapters, I knew something was off. So I did what I should have done before handing over my...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
I'm going to be honest: I'm a little emotional writing this. I built something. From scratch, across six countries, in between bus rides and Airbnb check-ins and more Descript exports than I care to count. I've been a coach for 2 years now, and this is the very first time I've taken everything I've learned and put it somewhere people can actually use it, at their own pace, without needing me in the room. It opens today. Here's why I built it. A few years ago, I was running on red wine,...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Everyone’s Selling You More. What If The Answer Was Always Less? I want you to think about the last time something in your life wasn’t working. Maybe you weren’t sleeping well. Or you’d stopped exercising. Or your stress was through the roof and your eating had gone to shit. Or you were drinking too much. What was the first thing you did? I’ll guess: you tried to add something. An app. A new routine. A supplement. A 30-day challenge. A habit tracker. A course. A podcast. A cleanse. A book....
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Why your best plans fall apart by Wednesday, and what to do about it I’m writing this from a hotel room in Santa Marta, Colombia after 4 spectacular days of Carnival in Barranquilla last weekend. And somewhere between the last night of carnival and checking into this hotel, I made the most spectacular plans for this week: Write from my stunning hotel room, inspired by the view of the Caribbean sea. Gym every morning. Eat well. Catch-up on work calls and emails. Research for my upcoming...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Be The Person You’d Fall In Love With I spent most of my 30s in a relationship with someone who was wildly unreliable. No, I’m not talking about my husband. He’s absolutely wonderful. I’m talking about someone who would make promises every Sunday night like “this is the week I’m going to eat better, sleep more, stop smoking, stop drinking, exercise, meditate, journal, be a better human....” And usually by Wednesday she’d broken half of them. By Friday she’d totally given up. By Sunday she was...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Your Life Isn’t a TED Talk We’ve been sold a story. The visionary founder who “always knew” he’d build something huge. The coach who found her ‘true calling’ after one life-changing retreat. The career changer who had one crystallising moment of clarity. Great stories, mostly bullshit. These people aren’t dishonest. They’re just doing what humans do: making sense of a messy journey by telling it backwards. Steve Jobs said “you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them...
2 months ago • 1 min read