You Can't Win at Being Calm


You Can't Win at Being Calm. Trust Me, I Tried.

I’ve downloaded, deleted, and redownloaded the meditation app Headspace so many times, it should come with a loyalty card.

I’ve also done 200-hour yoga teacher training. I am literally certified to teach people how to be more present.

And I still catch myself treating mindfulness like a performance metric.

I can’t help it, I turn everything into striving.

Meditation, nutrition, sleep, exercise, even rest.

Part of it is just how I’m wired, the Type A brain that wants to optimise everything.

There’s also something else underneath: I spent years being a complete trainwreck.

And now that I’ve rebuilt myself into someone who has her shit mostly together, there’s a quiet fear that the smallest leeway means sliding back. That if I’m not monitoring, tracking, improving, the old version of me will somehow creep back in.

She won’t. I’m a completely different person, but the fear doesn’t care about logic. So I grip. I optimise. I turn being well into a full-time job and then wonder why I’m exhausted by it.

“Fun is serious business”, former Singapore minister George Yeo said in 1991.

That energy, that’s me with wellness.


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Most habit advice tells you to do more. I help you subtract first, so your habits survive real life. Certified Health Coach + Behaviour Change Specialist. Creator of The MAKE SPACE Method™.

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