That Voice in Your Head? It's Full of Shit

There’s a version of this you’ll recognise.

You’re having a perfectly fine day. Nothing is particularly wrong, nothing’s on fire.

But out of absolutely nowhere, your brain produces something like: you’re falling behind. Or this isn’t going to work anyway so what’s the point. Or everyone else has figured this out and you’re the one who hasn’t.

It arrives with zero evidence yet total certainty.

It doesn’t knock or present a case. It just shows up in your own voice, already dressed as a fact, and you believe it.

Not because it’s convincing but because it’s familiar.

It sounds like you, so you assume it is you.

So you don’t argue with it, you barely even clock it as a thought.

I had one of these last week that was so ridiculous it actually made me laugh once I caught it.

I’m 4 months into a year-long trip through Latin America, doing work I chose and living a life I spent 2 years building.

And the thing that’s surprised me most since we started travelling? The guilt.

Not about anything specific. Just a constant you should be working right now every time I’m not at my laptop.

18 years of corporate life + a deeply type A brain will do that to you.

So there I was, sitting by the beautiful Bacalar lagoon in Mexico, and my brain’s contribution? You should be further along with your business by now.

Not “this is nice” or “well done, you!”

Just: not enough.

The fucking AUDACITY!

Continue Reading

Hey! I'm Noemie

Wellbeing by design for burned-out overachievers allergic to self-help BS. Evidence-based habits, mindset shifts and real talk from a Former Queen of Bad Habits. No toxic trends or wellness hustle, just science, soul, and a little bit of chaos ⚡️

Did someone forward you this email?
Subscribe here

Unsubscribe · Preferences

Why you're still awake at 1am (it's not the caffeine)

Why Trying to Fall Asleep Keeps You Awake Before we begin, this week's piece comes with something new! I built The 7-Day Sleep Reset: a proper protocol based on clinical insomnia research and behaviour design, with 15 printable tools and the worksheets I use with actual coaching clients. The guide is the full 7-day programme and it’s $17. If you want the one technique that changed everything for me, plus one experiment to try tonight, keep reading. For the past few weeks, I’ve been teaching a...

6 days ago • 1 min read

Is it just me, or everything feels a little fucked?

Is it just me, or everything feels a little fucked? Is it just me or is everyone a little bit over... everything right now? It’s like a constant dread in the background. A constant what the fuck is happening that doesn’t switch off. You open your phone and there’s multiple wars, climate crisis, something unhinged someone said, and a grocery receipt that makes you want to lie down on the floor. And then, at the same time, everything is also incredibly stupid. Oracle just laid off 30,000 people...

12 days ago • 1 min read

SMART goals were never scientifically tested. (Yes, really)

SMART Goals Have Zero Evidence Behind Them. Zero. The world’s most popular goal framework has zero evidence behind it. I know. That’s a big claim. But stay with me. SMART goals are everywhere. Every corporate training deck you’ve ever sat through. Every January reset article. Every wellness carousel with cute fonts and a sunset background. They feel so official, so universally agreed upon, that I assumed there must be decades of research behind them. Right? There are not. The whole thing...

20 days ago • 1 min read